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This month I want to share a little episode that happened to me because I found it to be a great inspiration, and I hope you’ll find it inspirational too.
You have to know that I’m not exactly pretty. Never been. Let’s just say that beauty is not my gift. But, but, but, I’m healthy, and I have no missing body parts. I would never replace or cut or mar in any way my appearance in the name of beauty because there are so many people out there who are missing a leg or a hand or have crippling genetic conditions, so imagine how disrespectful it would be toward those people to go under the knife in the name of esthetics. So I compensate with art. I do photography, I write. I try to do beautiful things.
Wait, wait, I actually have a story to tell you, so don’t start saying, “Awww, but you’re beautiful inside,” because you know what reply that will prompt: “Who the hell’s gonna come and turn me inside out??” *grin*
Back to my story. I have a friend at work who’s really beautiful. She has one of those perfect faces that never age and know no flaws. A few weeks ago we went out to lunch together and out of the blue she told me, “I envy you.”
I almost fell off my chair. I said, “What are you talking about, Kate? Did you take a good look at me? And did you take a good look at the mirror? How can somebody as beautiful as yourself envy _me_?”
She shook her head. “You don’t understand. This” — she pointed to herself — “I had nothing to do with this. I have only my parents to thank for their good genes. But you — you have talents. And you take full credit for those talents.”
I was taken by such surprise that I didn’t know what to reply. So I hugged her and thanked her.
Why did I tell you this? Because we all hate some things of ourselves. We all have insecurities. But maybe sometimes we have to learn to look at ourselves with somebody else’s eyes and be more forgiving. We are fairly good at forgiving others, so let’s learn to do the same with ourselves. 🙂